1. Cunt – Inga Muscio
This is one of the very first, very best little feminist books I ever picked up. The overarching premise is rooted in Inga Muscio’s challenge to reclaim the word “cunt” from its damaging, derogatory current use and redefine it as it was originally intended; as an ancient title of respect. Reading this book was like reading my secret inner thoughts (why DO I have to be ashamed of me period?! Isn’t there a better way to prevent pregnancy than fucking with my hormones?) written out into a manifesto full of cunt pride.
all photos by Megan Shelby
I love, love throwing parties so when it came time for me to host my BFF’s bridal shower, I wanted it to be the best party I’ve ever thrown- and I’ve thrown some kickass parties, so this would be no small feat. In the end, it was a one-of-a-kind amazing party and all the hard work was worth it!! I’ll share with you here my tips and tricks for throwing a great party ~ specifically a Bridal Shower for Lesbians!
Not every gay couple will want a Big Fat Gay Shower, but I knew ours would be into it. They’re loud, proud and love rainbows. Plus this party was going to be just friends and a few co-workers, so I really wanted everyone to feel like they could be themselves and have a good time, which unfortunately is not always the case at many wedding-related events. Continue reading
This one’s for all my white homies out there. As events have unfolded in the case of Trayvon Martin, then Eric Garner and now Freddie Gray, racial tensions in our country are at an intensity that I haven’t seen before in my lifetime. It pains me. I live in New York, where half my neighbors are black and Latino and I see the prejudice in which the NYPD deals with me versus them. I’m posting this brilliant essay, published in 1990 by feminist and anti-racist Dr. Peggy McIntosh because I see the denial of the existence of white privilege in my community. Continue reading
This is my very first salad post and I’m so excited to start sharing my salad knowledge with the world. I love salads. I love making them, ordering them and eating them. Maybe it’s because I’m almost 30, but sometime in the past 2 years my body just really started craving good foods- foods that taste good and foods that are good for me. Hence, this salad obsession. Continue reading
I haven’t thought about the word in quite a while. Honestly, it’s mostly faded from my vocabulary. Recently, someone complaining to me about this friend and I was trying to empathize, though I don’t have a lot of drama- girlfriend or otherwise in my life anymore. I can relate because I definitely used to have a lot in my life. In hindsight, all that drama from college and years past- even when it was someone else’s fault- was still totally my fault for just being in that situation. I am glad I’m past those days. I can’t even think of what would be a big enough deal that I could have an actual fallout with any of my friends but I guess thats the peace and beauty that comes with being almost 30. Still, I was young once and I remember what it was like to be mad at a friend. So she’s ranting about her friend, then leans in, slows and quiets her voice, looks me in the eye and says while shaking her head, “She was SUCH a SLUT in high school.” Continue reading
This one is a recipe borrowed from a friend because it’s just too good not to share.
I am not really too much of a sweets person, unless it’s sober January, in which case I cannot get enough desserts. But I could devour pints of this ice cream any time, plus its SO EASY to make with stuff you already have in your pantry/freezer. Continue reading
One of the most pivotal times in my life as a young adult was the sexual awakening years between 20 and, well, now. I’m still learning about my sexuality all the time. I was a relatively late bloomer in the sack, due to 18 years of brainwashing by my ultra conservative Southern Baptist upbringing which included a ceremony where I went up in front of the entire church and my parents gave me a ring as I promised not to have sex until I married. Guys, I’m not totally sure if I even knew my vagina hole was different from my pee hole at that point, I was just doing what I thought was right and cool and honestly– who knows, I was a CHILD and children have non sequitur thought processes that make them super easy to brainwash. More on that, probably, later. Anyway, I went to college and about a year and a half in I started having sex. Continue reading
I visited Saigon two years ago, and I still dream about the food. If you get a chance to go to Vietnam, do it! I can barely write post this without booking a one way ticket. It’s an incredibly friendly city, the architecture is stunning and the food is out of this world. Since then, I’ve tried my hand at replicating many of their dishes. This one can’t really be considered truly Thai, because I always leave out fish sauce -a must have for most Thai dishes- and the pork meatballs are completely my own creation, but the Thai red curry and coconut milk take me back to the streets of Saigon in one bite. Continue reading
This recipe is the foundation for many meals on this site and is a recipe I first got from my mother and have been using ever since.
I pick a few spices from my cabinet that would go well together and will pair well with whatever I’m cooking. If I’m going for a Mexican flair, I use chili powder and cumin. If I’m going for Italian, I use oregano and thyme. For Thai, lime and ginger zest. For French; lemon zest and tarragon. Continue reading